Bullying is an ongoing problem in schools today, amongst other places. We see and hear of bullying incidence all across the country on a nearly daily basis.
Currently, I am dealing with a situation involving my youngest son, who is 7 and in 1st grade. My son is a very bright child - he is above grade level in nearly every area and those he's not above grade level he's at grade level. He also has some emotional issues that he has a behavioral TSS and receives mobile therapy at home for. The issues my son is facing are complex and deal with many different things. As a result of these issues, he has a hard time making and keeping friends.
The last few weeks, my son has been coming home in tears nearly every day saying another child, who is in his class at school, and a couple of older children have been hitting him. In fact, two kids held his arms behind his back while the child in his class proceeded to punch him in the stomach. These incidence have been getting more and more frequent and more and more aggressive.
Yesterday, my son told me that the child in his class who has been hitting him has begun to hit him and grab him in his privates. Since I don't know exactly where the other kids involved live, I can't talk to their parents about this situation. So, I called my son's elementary school. Some of these incidences have been occuring on school grounds - all of the the incidences occur after the kids are dismissed to go home. I didn't get to talk to the principle as he had left for the day by time I was able to call, but I left him a voicemail. My son did admit to hitting the bully back yesterday (the bully hit first) - scratching his face, just under his eye.
Today, my son comes home in tears - red faced and gasping for air. My older son had walked up to meet him at the end of the day to walk him home in hopes that this would prevent some of the hitting since I don't get home until after the kids are released from school. Well, it did prevent the hitting. However, it didn't stop the bully's dad from threatening my son by saying "If you f****** touch my son again, I'll break your f****** arms!".
I promptly called the principle - who is in a meeting, so again, I wasn't able to talk to him - but I left another message. All of these incidence have been witnessed by other students. I've had other students come to my house to tell me about incidences of this boy bullying my son that my son didn't even tell me about. The other students say that the bully always hits my son first and the bully has admitted to other students that he hits first and that he grabs/hits my son's privates.
I understand that bullyiesexist, and kids need to learn how to deal with bullying. I'm not sure how we can teach kids to deal with bullies. I'm also not sure how we can teach kids not to be bullies. Further, I'm not sure what is wrong with an adult that they think it would ever be ok to threaten a child.
So, my question is - how do you handle bullies? How do you teach your kids to deal with bullies? How do you teach your child not to be a bully? How do deal with adults that decide it's ok to bully your child?